Children with FASD may lie over and over again, for many reasons:
- They may be trying to please you with what they think you want to hear,
- To get attention with a ‘good story’,
- They have trouble remembering the truth so ‘fill in the blanks’ in their memory,
- They have trouble thinking in a logical way
- They might really believe the lies they are telling you.
- Children with FASD have significant short-term memory problems. This creates difficulty knowing the difference between reality and fantasy/fiction.
- They may not recall what they are asked to tell or have the language to explain what occurred. Some children may not remember whether a story was made up, a dream, or really happened.
- Children with FASD may lie a lot, which can lead to those around them to have trouble trusting them or believing their stories.
- Avoid redundant questions: Questions such as “Are you sure this happened?” may make your child more likely to answer with what he thinks you want to hear.
- Supervise: Know what they have been doing and need to do next. This way you will know what really happened and be able to remind your child of the facts.
- Practice storytelling: Have your child make up stories and read both fiction and non-fiction stories. Help her recognize appropriate times to tell stories, and differentiate between storytelling from lying.
- Ask “Truth or Story?”: To cue your child to stop and think before continuing to tell you what occurred.
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